Expecting mom sets boundaries by leaving entitled mother-in-law out of baby shower planning to keep the event stress-free: 'Am I wrong for feeling this way?'

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  Friends surround a pregnant woman at her baby shower, affectionately touching her belly and congratulating her.

• One expecting mom turned to the internet for advice after running into a tricky family dynamic while planning her baby shower. While the celebration itself should be a joyful moment, figuring out who gets involved in the planning process can sometimes create unexpected tension. In her case, the situation centers around her mother, who is already organizing the event, and her mother-in-law, who has strong opinions about the baby. The mom-to-be explains how things have been unfolding so far.

   

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• However, as the planning continued, the mom-to-be started thinking more carefully about what might happen if her MIL were directly involved in organizing the event. While she doesn’t have any major issues with her, their personalities and dynamics have made her hesitant to open the door to more input during the planning process. From her perspective, keeping things simple might be the best way to avoid unnecessary stress.

   

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• At the heart of the situation, the expecting mom isn’t trying to exclude anyone: she’s simply trying to keep things calm during an already emotional time. She explains that she still wants her MIL to feel included and respected at the celebration, but worries that involving her in the planning might create unnecessary tension. With the baby shower approaching, she’s left wondering if her concerns are reasonable or if she’s overthinking the situation.

   

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  A group of women celebrate a baby shower as one guest presents the mom-to-be with a gift.

• After sharing her story online, the mom-to-be asked the community if she was wrong for wanting to keep the planning simple. She also wondered if there might be a small way to involve her MIL without letting the situation spiral into something more stressful. Redditors quickly chimed in with their thoughts on boundaries, family dynamics, and whether the expecting mom was being fair.

   

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